Yes, I was in Fontainebleau this year too for bouldering. Initially I meant to go with a group of friends during Easter. Corona came and that didn’t happen. I and my girlfriend — whom I met half a year ago — went in October instead and had some luck with both weather and corona regulations.
There has not been a lot of updates to the blog lately and there has not been any new episodes of the Swimrun Watch podcast. I’ve been busy with starting a new job, changing apartments and by the psychologically demanding process of reporting my girlfriend’s rapist to the police.
Some words on rape. It’s not the first time I meet a girlfriend who has been raped. If you, the reader, walk into a similar situation, please support the victim and report the perpetrator to the police. We have to get rid of this tremendously damaging behaviour. From trying to just forget and hide it, she developed the strength to stand up against her oppressor. For a victim of rape to take the anxiety and shame and put it on the rapist, where it belongs, takes a lot out of you.
I’m very grateful for the support of our friends and fellow climbers of Klättercentret Telefonplan for their kind words of compassion and support. But first and foremost, my girlfriend Felicia needs to be recognized for standing up against the rapist. She endured the legal process with the inevitable mental revisit to a time of being forced, hit, having her hair torn off her head and being sexually violated. In reporting her perpetrator, she is standing up for all who have ever been raped and suffer unbeknownst to the world.
Pelle (that’s his name) raped and taunted her inside his apartment at multiple occasions — not something you just walk away from. These horrible experiences and the memory of her words describing them will live inside her and my head for the rest of our lives. I still have hopes that the justice system will put an end to his raping.
Please be kind to each other, and firm to rapists.